I am new to the site, I am a first time surrogate that is waiting for IP's. I was sent here by a friend, to look for some insite from IP's. 

Welcome!! What questions do you have?

Welcome, I can help with any questions too

I would not have a fetal reduction. My good friend interviewed 4 different high risk ob's
during her pregnancy and all of them counseled her on reduction (she was preggo with triplets), but they
decided against it.

I knew that if our surrogate became pregnant with multiples that I'd
definitely do my research and find a dr who I
trusted/felt comfortable with when making such a big decision.  I can
understand your concerns about what if your surrogate was carrying
triplets... My good friend is 5'5", and ended up having a relatively
"easy" triplet
pregnancy.  From what they all told me, having a reduction does put your
entire pregnancy at risk, but it also depends on how/where your babies
are in your uterus.  It's a very big decision, with many emotional
up/downs, as I'm sure you know, but if you transfer 2 or less, the
possiblity of one splitting is extremely rare, so I really don't think
you'll have to deal with this, but it's great to be prepared in the case
and have it in your contract & have an understanding with your
surrogate.

As far as quality of life. We opted out to have the testing that showed if our baby had Downs or believe in abortion because of something of this nature. I felt that if God gave me a child with special needs, I would deal with it because that's what God intended me to have.

I hope everything goes well for you! If you have any other questions, I'd love to help!

Good questions!

With selective reduction, you visually see the baby die. They inject a saline solution into the heart of the baby(ies) which is visible on the ultrasound monitor. Once its life has been extinguished, the body will naturally absorb the deceased fetus. To me, that definitely sounds horrible and I am too against abortion. It also puts the other babies at risk. I agree, to not implant more than 2 and the possibility of getting pregnant with more than twins I'm sure is extremely rare. I have heard of one splitting and resulting in triplets, but it's not something I thought too much into because I guess I just never thought it's happen to me.. but, I think it's great you are asking now and I can see, especially in a surrogate's view (hello it's your body) that it's something you need to think about. Unless there is danger to the surrogate or babies, I strongly would be against fetal reduction. That's just my opinion though!

Good luck

Thank You Ladies, that is a huge help. That is how I am feeling, but hearing (reading) others that feel the same way is just comfermation. 

I have possible IPs looking at my profile now so please pray that it goes well :)

Good luck to you.. I hope you're matched soon!! I look forward to following your journey!

I have an Intended MOMMA!!!!

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!   I'm so happy for you!!!

That's wonderful news!! Congrats!!