Hello everyone.  I am a new member and I am an IP.   We have tried for 9 years to get pregnant.  I have frozen embryos that I need a gestational carrier for.  I have conceived in the past and have a child, but I don't know what happened that caused me never to be able to get pregnant again.  I think I waited so long to go the route of a gestational carrier because it isn't really something that would be well received by my family.  My husband is on board, but the rest of my family just wouldn't understand it, and I feel that they would be very judgemental.  I am looking forward to joining this community and getting to know all of you.

Hello & welcome!!

I'm so sorry to hear about the struggles over your last 9 years.. In my opinion, if you and your husband are on board, that's all that matters! During our first journey, hardly anyone in my family even knew what was going on until we were pregnant with a heartbeat. Then we announced to everyone in our families and everyone was overjoyed with excitement. Of course, there were the questions "what if she keeps the baby", etc.. but I quickly informed everyone that I wouldn't let just anyone do this for us.. that I had trust in our surrogate, legal documents are involved, etc.. All I heard were positive responses and once our little boy arrived everyone in our families were so excited and thrilled.

Now we're on our second journey, with someone different.. a wonderful friend, she's our angel.. and carrying our twins! I think it's easier now, of course, for everyone in the family to understand and accept what's going on. They can look at my healthy, vibrant 4-year old son and see that surrogacy isn't about the few stories you may have heard 10 years ago on the news.. it's a beautiful thing, and a gift from another human being. They all ask about her and how she's feeling and how the babies are doing.. It definitely helps having family support, but if they didn't, I would still go for it anyways as long and my husband was for it too! And you never know, the people that you're thinking may be judgemental, could very possibly be the ones that are very supportive once they hear the news.

If you have any questions, I'm an open book and love talking about surrogacy!

Kristen

Blog: http://surrogacyjourneytobaby.blogspot.com/

I am just starting out like you. I haven't informed the entire family yet, but I think they'll all be accepting. I agree that if your husband is on board, that's really what is most important. It is your child, not theirs. Good luck, here's hoping for a new family member for both of us soon!

Welcome

I hope that your family understands, but what's most important is you and your husband wanting to do this for a family. I can't wait to hear how everything goes!

Nice to meet you!