I am curious, for any of you who are former IPs and used a surrogate, what kind of relationship do you have with your surrogate now, after the baby or babies have been born? I still have a wonderful relationship with my former IPs, they send me photos, videos, and even let me visit. I hope they do all of this because they WANT to and not because they feel they HAVE to. I am looking into starting a 2nd journey with a new family and one of my stipulations is that they also allow me to stay in their lives. I feel like my biggest reward for being a surrogate is to see the family AFTER the babies are here and how happy they all are now. I love the twins like I do my nephews and can't imagine what things would be like if I never got to see them again.

We have a great relationship with our former GS! We were very fortunate to have a great relationship from the start and we still visit each other from time to time and I'm always sending her new pictures of our little angel. I definitely don't feel like I'm doing it because I HAVE to, but because I WANT to and wouldn't want it any other way! That's so great you have that kind of relationship with your FIPs. I have heard about the journeys that don't turn out so well, and that's so unfortunate.

Thank you for your response. Hearing things from an IPs perspective is very helpful!