It was proposed and decided last night that I would be a surrogate mother for one of my very best friends. This whole concept seems so much bigger than me. I know she has a better idea of how to go about all of this because she has looked into it before - but what about me?

What questions should I be asking myself to make sure I am fully prepared for this journey?

First of all, congrats on making a step towards helping a great friend create a family!!

A few questions I can think of off the top of my head is, first if you are married or have a significant other, are they 100% on board with this? I can't stress how important that is! Also, you have to realize that the chance of multiples is higher since most of the time they will be transferring more than one embryo, so your chances of a c-section is also higher as well, so if you've never had one, make sure that you're ok with that as well. Even though this is a friend, I'd still make sure a lawyer draws up a contract and you are both protected and that everything you think might happen or occur is in that contract and signed before you transfer. I think most Endocrinologist's require that a lawyer is involved, but I might be mistaken.

I hope this helps a little. I've had a long day at work so my brain's a little fried so hopefully someone else can follow me with some more questions & ideas for you.

Don't let this scare you, I just want you to be aware of these things if you haven't already thought of them. Overall, this is such a wonderful thing you are doing for your friend!! God Bless you both!!

Hi Megan! Welcome!!

You are an amazing
woman for agreeing to do something like this for a dear friend. I just
wanted to add a few more things to the post above...



What are your expectations for the delivery, ie: drug free/some drugs/pain free and how does she feel about this?



Important!! Both yours and the IPs feelings about abortion/reduction,
ie:would you reduce if you had multiples such as quads, etc. or if there
was a defect with the child or other circumstances



Do you have medical insurance to cover anything.. how will bills be paid, etc..

Just a few more suggestions! If you have any more
questions, feel free to ask. I remember when I first started out, I was
like a deer in headlights trying to figure out where to begin! Take care
and hope all goes well.

Great answers! I can't think of anything to add to the posts above, but wanted to wish you and your good friend a great journey ahead! Sending many good vibes & sticky thoughts (hoping the embryos stick, you'll catch on to the slang, lol) your way!!

Thank you all so much for your help & input. I added these questions to my list. I am meeting with my friend tomorrow.

Much Love,

Megan