Hi everyone!

I'm pretty new to this process and am still about three or four years away from beginning the process of finding a gestational surrogate. I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed with the amount of information there is to learn, but am trying to take it one day at a time. I'm currently in grad school and am planning my dissertation to cover some facet of the surrogacy process.

Anyhow, so my question is this - how did you go about telling people? I'm sure this has been addressed before, but I don't think I was typing out the correct words to search the forum with. Anyhow, I feel strongly inclined to waiting until the baby is home and the entire process is complete before letting people in our social circle and extended family know. I don't mind telling people in my husband's and my nuclear family beforehand, but really want to keep the information as close as possible.

Can any other IP's share information on when and how they disclosed?

Thanks!

Hello! I'm an IM and have a 18 month old through surrogacy!

I know how overwhelming this can all be at first and I can
remember not even knowing what to ask or where to begin. You've come to
a great place though to find out information. As far as when I told
family and friends... My parents knew from the very beginning and a
couple of my close friends. We didn't tell our extended family until
Easter, which is when we found out we were pregnant. Our surrogate had
just sent us a text message with a picture of a positive digital
pregnancy test the day before, so we were really excited. My boss knew
for quite a while as well, she was very understanding and excited for
us. She was great about the times I needed off to drive to Dallas for
all of the appointments. A few family members such as my mom and
step-dad met our GS shortly after she was pregnant... but most of my
family & friends met her at the baby shower. She sat at the front
with me and opened gifts along with me. Everyone was very supportive
and a lot of people hadn't heard of surrogacy so they were all very
intrigued by the entire process.

If you have any questions, I'm always available.. I look forward to hearing more about your journey!

Good question. My parents are deceased, but I'm very close to my MIL and she knew that I couldn't get pregnant. She also knew that we were going to have a child through surrogacy and met our surrogate and her DH before we transferred. We didn't tell anyone else until we were several months pregnant. I told my boss at about 6 months and I was able to take 6 weeks off fortunately. I told close friends, they already knew I was going to do this. They wanted to help me and be a surrogate, but my two best friends haven't even had children of their own yet. Good luck with everything and if you have any more questions I don't mind answering.