I was just curious to those who have been through this before, or those who have already planned their baby shower, how did you include your surrogate? Or those that are surrogates, how comfortable did you feel at your IMs shower and how involved did you want to be? I haven't discussed this yet with our GS so I thought I'd ask before talking to her about this. I was just curious.

I think it's great that you are wanting to include your surrogate at the shower.  I feel that since the shower is for the baby the surro should be included if at all possible (we live too far from our IM to be included).  To include her as part of the whole shower experience you could think about getting her a gift- something she can use after baby is born like a massage or mani/pedi or full spa day, or even just a basket of spa treatments. (I know that would be something I would love) And I would include her on the invites too, something like:  Please come celebrate the anticipated arrival of our baby and help us Thank the friend who is making it possible.  (Just an idea)

  If your surro doesn't feel comfortable being at your shower what aboutl waiting to have a shower after the baby is born.

Can't wait to hear how it all goes.

Jenn

We definitely included our surrogate.. She actually sat in the front and helped me opened gifts for Braxton and she had some gifts from my family & friends as well.. My friends also had a nice corsage for her and I both to wear. It was definitely important for me to include her and of course my family & friends were excited to meet her since many hadn't had a chance since she doesn't live in the same town..

I think it's great you're wanting to include her.. but remember that all surrogates will be different and some might be uncomfortable (shy) and not want too much attention, while others are fine with it.. so I'd definitely talk to your surrogate and see what her comfort level is with everything.. no matter what I'm sure she'll be happy that you're wanting to include her!

I'm glad you asked this! I was about to start a thread, but this helps.